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英语学习:孩子粗心 家长勿心急

日期:2017-11-01 09:31:27 来源:大学生学习网

When it comes to the child's carelessness, the average mom complains or criticizes, but it often doesn't work very well. In fact, it is a good way for my mother to change her mind and make an article about it.

One mom once introduced her experience:

Sometimes I don't keep my eyes on my children for careless mistakes. Instead, I look for opportunities to praise the child for his care. If the child sweeps the floor clean without adult's warning, the child avoids a mistake that was often made before, I will record these.

I put a careful watch on our wall, and every time the child was careful, I would draw him a red star. When the five stars are full, I will give him a small reward, such as taking him to KFC, etc. I gave him a big reward when the small reward was full twice, and bought him new clothes and a new pencil case. In this way, I found that the child was more careful and less careless.

The mother should pay special attention to this point, when the child appears careless, never put a negative label on the child. "You are often teach not to change", "you are a little careless, I see you this is the carelessness may not be able to really change", when parents say such a thing, the child will lose confidence.

People often have to prove psychological, the child is more so. If we try to be careful with our children and give him the opportunity to be sure and encourage him, the child will feel really careful. When the child is more and more careful, careful becomes the child's habit.

遇到孩子粗心的问题,一般的妈妈要么抱怨、要么批评,但这样做往往效果不是很明显。其实,妈妈如果转换一下思维,围绕细心做文章也是一个不错的办法。

一位妈妈曾经这样介绍她的经验:

有时,我不总是盯住孩子因为粗心而犯的错误不放,而是寻找机会表扬孩子的细心之处。如孩子在没有经过大人的提醒下把地板扫干净了、孩子避免了一次以前经常会犯的错误等,我都会把这些记录下来。

在我们家墙壁上贴着一张细心表,孩子每细心一次,我就给他画一个红色五角星;当五角星满五个时,我就会给他一个小奖励,如带他去吃一次肯德基等;当小奖励满两次时,我就给他一个大奖励,给他买身新衣服、买个新文具盒等。这样坚持一段时间,我发现孩子的细心点越来越多了,而粗心的毛病也明显地减少了。

妈妈要特别注意这一点,当孩子出现粗心的毛病时,千万不要给孩子贴上负面标签。“你真是屡教不改”、“你就是一个‘小马虎虫’,我看你这粗心的毛病是真改不了了”,当家长说出这样的话时,孩子自己也会丧失信心。

人往往是有求证心理的,孩子更是如此。如果我们努力去寻找孩子的细心点,并不失时机地肯定他、鼓励他,孩子便会感觉自己真的很细心。当孩子的细心点越来越多时,细心便成为了孩子的一种习惯。